Hint: It’s not because they desperately crave commitment
The real reason? Most men, especially young men, are bad at sex.
There. I said it.
Y’know how I know? Because I’m really good at it, I’m thoroughly in touch with my body and what gives me pleasure, and I orgasm like I’m getting paid for it, and I’ve still been with too many guys who just clearly did not have a clue what they were doing — many of whom would then get huffy and insecure if I tried to guide them to better performance, like my needs were throwing them off their game.
Fuck that noise.
So let’s stop putting this all on women, hm? How about an article examining why so many men are bad at sex? And even if you want to say that, oh, women should speak up more (which doesn’t always work and which ignores the cultural conditioning that encourages us not to), why on earth should that burden all be on us? Women are inundated, constantly, with messages on how to please men. Pick up any damn mainstream women’s magazine, and I guaran-damn-tee you you will see headlines like: “How to blow his mind”, “How to make sure you’re the one he’ll never forget”, “How to be amazing in bed”, “69 amazing sex tips”. The message does not go both ways.
If a man wants to be good at sex, why doesn’t he, y’know, ask how to become so? Or, if it’s too awkward to bring up with casual partners, maybe read something? Research, dammit! Learn where the clit is and what to do with it! Learn how to give good head and not just because you want it in return! Master a position other than missionary!
But nooooooo, they all just assume they must be good at sex by sheer virtue of Magical Dick Powers. And I, personally, am no longer rewarding such behavior.